BY THE VICTIM ASSISTANT
Los Alamos Police Department

Domestic violence is a serious issue that affects individuals and families in every community. While many people associate abuse with physical violence, it can also include emotional, verbal, sexual, financial, and psychological abuse. Recognizing the warning signs is an important step toward seeking help and promoting safer communities.

Domestic violence often involves a pattern of controlling behavior. Warning signs may include

 Physically hurts you by hitting, pushing, choking, or restraining you.
 Threatens to harm you, your children, your pets, or themselves to control your actions.
 Constantly insults, humiliates, or belittles you.
 Controls where you go, who you see, or who you talk to.
 Monitors your phone, messages, email, or social media without your permission.
 Controls your money or prevents you from working or attending school.
 Forces or pressures you into sexual activity without your consent.
 Blame you for their abusive behavior or makes you feel responsible for their actions.
 Isolates you from friends, family, or other sources of support.

The effects of domestic violence extend far beyond physical injuries. Survivors may experience anxiety, depression, fear, loss of confidence, and long-term emotional trauma. Children who witness violence in the home can also face lasting emotional and developmental challenges.

Community organizations, healthcare professionals, counselors, and law enforcement agencies play an important role in supporting those affected by domestic violence. Raising awareness helps reduce stigma and encourages people to seek assistance when they need it.

Everyone deserves to live in a home free from fear, intimidation, and abuse. Healthy relationships are built on respect, trust, communication, and equality. By recognizing the signs of domestic violence and supporting those who may be affected, communities can work together to prevent abuse and promote safety.

If you or someone you know may be experiencing domestic violence, confidential support is available through local domestic violence services and national support organizations. Reaching out to a trusted person or support service can be an important first step toward safety.

Resources

 National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233
 NM Crisis Line: 1-855-NMCRISIS (1-855-662-7474)
 Crisis Center of Northern New Mexico: 1-505-753-1656
 Esperanza Shelter: 1-505-474-5536
 Los Alamos Victim Assistance Program: 1-505-663-3511
 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: Call, Text, or Chat 988